Wednesday, October 22, 2014

What About Him?

Most of the time when we think about romance, we (women) focus on ourselves. What do we think of as romantic? How can our lover please us? How can we get our lover to…? Well, anything that would make our tender hearts pound in excitement.
What about him? Doesn’t the man you love deserve equal treatment? Of course, this same thought can apply to the other person in your relationship, whether it is a woman-woman one or a man-man one. Generally speaking, there is one person in the relationship who tends to be the leader in the romance department.
I’m focusing here on suggestions about what a woman can do for her man, or the non-romance-leader to do for person they love.
Dress with your lover in mind. Wear one of his favorite outfits or wear your hair in a way her prefers. Buy some sexy underwear or some that has a suggestive message on it. Purchase some body paint and write a love message on your personal billboard just for him. Or wear one of his shirts and nothing else; make sure he knows that’s all you’re wearing.
Are you into touching? So are men. They’re not only visually oriented but very tactile loving. Play footsie under the table in a public place, keeping it appropriate so as not to embarrass either of you. Walk by him and touch his shoulder, maybe give it a little squeeze, and walk away. Give him a big hug for no apparent reason. Give him a hit-and-run surprise kiss on the cheek. Walk by him where he is sitting and lightly run your fingers through his hair.
Do you like being pampered? So do men. They like to know they’re appreciated, too. After he’s had a tough day, give him a massage or run him a hot bath…join him in it. Watch his favorite TV show (or game) with him, put his feet in your lap, and rub them. Buy some massage oil and have him stretch out on the sofa for a soothing rubdown. Set a romantic scene with blankets and pillows in front of the fireplace (or someplace special), serve him your favorite wine or his favorite drink, and….
Keep him aware of you. Put a nice or naughty note in his briefcase, or to open on his laptop. Call him at work and tell him you’re looking forward to having a special time with him that night. Tuck a suggestive picture of you in his shirt pocket. Show up at his office with his favorite snack or with tickets to an event he likes: a concert, a game, a special movie. Give him a long, hot kiss out of the blue.
The list can go on and on. But I think you get the idea. Be creative and have fun with showing your love of the important person in your life.

CONTEST: Share either something you’ve tried to show appreciation to your lover, or another suggestion to consider. I will select a random winner from the responses on October 27th. The prize is a $25 gift card to Babeland Toys. Winner will receive one e-book of their choice from my Decadent Publishing backlist. Good luck!

Starla Kaye’s 1Night Stand books:
Maggie’s Secret Wish
Starting Over

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  1. Lovely suggestions and idea for a blog post. It's really hard to focus on your partner when you have so many home and work responsibilities. We all need reminders. One thing I know would make my man happy is not wear a bra for a day to surprise him especially if we're going out (make sure I'm wearing a non-transparent top). Great tease and tension builder. Of course, I'd have to subtly let him know of the fact.

    1. Vicki, that was an excellent addition to the suggestions. Most men really like that whole "free breast" thing. Thanks for leaving a comment.

  2. I know this is cliche but my husband enjoy great dinners and so I try to fix him something special every once in a while and go all out.
    debby236 at gmail dot com

    1. Debby, yes, most men enjoy good food, especially when prepared just for them. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  3. I want to thank both of you for leaving a comment and entering my contest.

    Debby has been chosen as the winner.