Bad Girls Deserve a Spanking. Or, the Lovely Red Ass

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By Sascha Illyvich

The art of corporal punishment more commonly known as spanking is one that many enthusiasts enjoy.  Nothing sexier than a red hot ass where the nerves have opened up and blood has rushed to the area to make someone feel the fun sting during sexual play.

The ass is mostly muscle, so it's harder to hurt than other body parts. It's also one of the strongest muscles in the human body.  It's also one of the most talked about features of the human body.  No man or woman can resist a hot, well-muscled or tight ass on the partner of their choosing.  With all the nerve endings in the ass and around the anus in particular, it's no wonder spanking fetishes are popular in sexual culture.

The fetish itself is versatile.  It can be involved in role play.  The priest and naughty nun fetish often involves discipline as does the school marm and student.  Or principal and teacher.  What's taboo to one person is often highly sexualized to another.

Some psychiatrists suggest that love of spanking stems from childhood issues and for many, that may be true.  Others simply find the fetish to be an extreme turn-on.  It's gender neutral, which means both men and women can get something out of it.  For women, the feeling of helplessness and submission makes her wet, because it stimulates those nerve endings.  The anticipation of sex from contact of one of her erogenous zones heightens the sensation for her.

For men, turning a sweet, hot bottom pink is more about control and dominance in addition to the above mentioned anticipation of getting laid. 

The bottom is a prime erogenous zone; however, unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require harder stimulation to trigger them. Spanking is an obvious choice here, especially once blood has gathered near the genitals.  A woman clenches her legs together or squirms, often rubbing her clitoris against the knee or bench she may be bent over during the spanking, adding to the stimulation she receives. Siddella from Menage Bound knew this joy at one point.  As did Shelly from The Playground, my first and third Decadent 1NS stories.

When she's given permission to feel sexual, spanking reinforces those feelings. 

One of the best spots to swat an ass on either gender is where the ass cheek and thigh meet, often known as the sweet spot.  It's near enough the genitals to keep blood flowing there as the skin warms and stimulate that mental organ known as the brain. 

Not much spanking going on in MenageBound, but sure as hell there's kink!  

Let's Talk Yearning

 

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By Sascha Illyvich

My latest acceptance for Decadent Publishing isn't actually for the 1NS series, though it started out that way.  I wanted to create a story dealing more with yearning and unresolved love issues, rather than a simple, tired out hookup and I thought the vehicle of Madame Eve provided something unique, given that I think of her more as a lifestyle, than a high end match making service.

The original heroine of that story and all my 1NS tales are in fact based on people I've known or currently have a relationship of sorts with.  At times, depending on the depth of emotion put into those relationships, I yearn for them. 

Funny, I never take flack for said yearning as a man.  In fact, my readers find it rather sweet that I'm willing to bare my emotions for unnamed, yet real people in my books.  Surrender to Love was no exception.  I couldn't write myself into that story, I've already (as many authors do) done that numerous times on accident and found myself scratching my head when I looked back at the story and wondered how that happened.

Yet this woman, Livia, is based on someone very dear to me, whom I yearn for more than she'll ever know; if only to yearn, for a happy ending to her rough life.  I believe she's on the way to claiming her own power but a short story about a male submissive who comes to show her a different side of strength and what that really means couldn't hurt.

I think the line itself encourages a healthy dose of new beginnings, something many of our readers may sympathize with.  That is our goal sometimes as writers, to get out the message of hope, especially in romance.  It's hard, oftentimes a struggle considering what occurs in our real lives, but we persist.  Just from the career standpoint, rejection, frustration, inability to write, difficulty meeting deadlines due to real life, all of those things get in the way of writing truly fantastic stories for readers to enjoy.  Yet we persist, under the hope that some reader will do like many of you, and give us a kudo, a kind word, a thank you or even a dollar for our books, showing us you understand the reader/author contract.

I'd go so far as to say we yearn for each other, because without readers we'd just have writers.  That would be boring don't you think?  HA!

To read Livia's story, pick it up at Decadent Publishing, Amazon or All Romance E-books!

In order to cure the dreaded creative rut she’s in, Livia ends up in Las Vegas by suggestion from her therapist.  Oh and there’s a catch.  Livia has been set up to have a one night stand with a very handsome man who promises her freedom through submission.  Can she surrender to more than just passion?

Inspiration and Crazy Adventures

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By Sascha Illyvich

When I started my next submission for Decadent Publishing's 1NS line, currently titled "Dark Knight" I knew I needed to work in the obvious elements of a good story, plus the elements of the line to get them to bite. 

The inspiration for my hopeful came from the same place I get all my creative story ideas from.  Yes, personal experience plays a part in all of this.  In my hopeful for Decadent, I modeled the character after all my 1NS heroines, choosing to use someone close to me.  She'll remain nameless but let's say she is well aware of all the hot sex in the story, even going so far as to get the good parts from me and share them with a group of people she KNOWS will buy this story once Decadent contracts it.

You can see my ego knows no bounds, right?

My previous 1NS book Menage Bound, Siddella and Jason actually are based on people too but to be honest, Jason sort of snuck in.  I won't say where I know this swarthy Latino from or what cigars he smokes, but I can say that I pumped him up in size, stature and dominance so the real Jason (if that was his name) and the story Jason (that IS his real name) aren't all that easy to compare.

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All of the stories I've crafted for Decadent have a similar theme and for once it's NOT redemption.  While that does play a part in The Playground it's not the overall theme.  Trust is. 

In all three stories a choice must be made.  Trust myself to try a new thing, or trust that my life will continue to suck if I go about things the way I have been. I've been fascinated by human kind ever since coming to terms with the recent fact that I apparently am not superman, and watching, putting these experiences into stories helps me draw some sort of closure on life, as I'm sure it helps others to understand me . It also serves for the fantasy background of so many readers looking for an escape. 

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Siddella had to let go and trust Jason and Chase to deliver what they promised they could.  Livia had to trust herself to grow with the help of Bruce, in Surrender to Love.  And of course we've talked about Devon and Shelly's trust issues.

So, dear reader, I ask you this:  Will you trust me to provide you with a brief, yet eloquently steamy love story published by the fine folks at Decadent Publishing?  Each word has been selected for its use in choice cuts of the story, with loving care, hand crafted from me to you via our seamless delivery system?

Freedom Through Submission

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By Sascha Illyvich

In all my 1Night Stand stories, the heroine tends to submit, giving of herself to the man in charge with hopes of a higher degree of love.  Since the stories are short, love is a hard bit to portray but I try my best and hopefully have hooked readers into my world, where I have much longer stories awaiting you.

The thing about submission, straight up is that it is NOT a weakness.  Submissive people are far from doormats, we cannot express this ideal enough.  I as a dominant am merely an actor, portraying a God, a figure, an Idol that controls, but the fact is, in this Lifestyle, in my stories, the true power is held by the submissives.

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Yet what is that power given to them by their so called gods?  In Surrender toLove, the outcome is hopefully one where Livia learns to find her own inner power, thus freeing her of her creative block.  She also seeks as an artist to understand the human condition from a powerful position, and from the experience of an oddball in her world.

A male submissive.

That's right, Bruce is the opposite of that poseur, Christian Grey (from 50 Shades infamy) in that he's giving over true power to someone else, while seeking release from his hectic life and past.  Also, unlike Grey, Bruce is a REAL master of his world, hence why he feels comfort in coming to Livia through the 1Night Stand series.   They form a harmony in his education of her on true power, and the scene I chose, having her face the window while only wearing lingerie and being tied to a chair, emphasizes the beginning of trust.  Romance novels are after all, the epitome of the heroine's journey, which is about trust.  When Livia allows this handsome, well dressed man to show her the ropes, literally and figuratively, she is allowing us a glimpse of who she can be, and showing herself what the pinnacle of her life could be.

Enjoy the excerpt, hopefully you'll pick up the story and come begging back for me…er, more.  

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Menage Bound - When three is NOT a crowd!

by Sascha Illyvich

I'm guessing the fabulous folks at Decadent do not want me disclosing my sexperiences, but I must mention them in brief as this draws readers and works on people's natural curiosity about the sexual nature of erotic authors.

The fact is, the encounters an author has, make for a fuller experience in writing, provided the author has had numerous adventures. If not, the author is left living vicariously through pornography, erotica, other means. (Like me) Being the Bad Boy of Romance, this actually works in my favor, as it justifies my flirtation, my drinking and premium cigar smoking all while providing an illusion, an image of something readers expect.

I've been talking with other authors about the unspoken author/reader contract and how upon publication, if the author platform does not define the relationship, the experience a reader gets from an author's book, then the reader defines it. This is not a bad thing, but it's not the best for attracting the most attention for the group of readers your book is targeted to. If however, every blog post, every interaction, tweet, facebook status, and book all say the same thing, then the AUTHOR is defining that contract.

In my world, my books tend to be about trust on a deeper level. And in my latest 1Night Stand, Menage Bound, Siddella must extend trust in the 1NS service that she can have a fantasy played out. Two hunky men, both dominant, both not fighting OVER her but instead, working well within the boundaries she sets. Jason and Chase must trust the same service, then extend said trust to Siddella for her acceptance that two men can have a healthy long term sexual relationship that involves pushing boundaries and growth.

 Menage Bound excerpt:

“Something the matter, Siddella? You can back out at any time.”

The tenderness came from Chase.

Back out? Hell no! Her body thrummed with so much sexual energy she could probably power the Vegas Strip for at least a week. She offered an innocent smile. “I’m good. Let’s do this.” Batting her eyelashes, she cocked her head to the side.

Jason smirked. “Do you want a safe word?”

The smart move would be to say yes. Somehow, she thought it wouldn’t be needed. But—

“Unlike my partner, I’m not asking. I’m giving you one. Wine bottle. If things get too heavy, you simply say wine bottle.” Chase didn’t look back at her.

His air of cool made her knees weak. “Wine bottle. Okay.” At least they were thinking of her safety. Yeah, they possessed the traits of true dominant males who valued her existence enough to give her a safe word. She smiled at the gesture.

The elevator dinged. Siddella started forward, but fingers gripping her shoulder stopped her. She looked back at Jason.

His eyes narrowed.

She let out a sigh. “Please, after you.”

Jason stepped into the elevator, followed by Chase. Then they turned and, with the slightest of movements, acknowledged Siddella, giving her permission to enter.

The material of her shirt began irritating her already hard nipples. Anticipation drove her wild. What would these men do to her?

What would start things off?

A few more moments would pass before she found out.

True Power in the form of a Dominant

by Sascha Illyvich

Welcome to my world.  I'm an erotic romance author with thirteen years of Lifestyle/BDSM experience and am going to share with you what I think makes a successful dominant outside of our reading experiences in erotic bondage. 

What makes a successful man?  If we’ve muddled through Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, we’ve probably figured out a great sleeping method!  The book was written in 1920 something and language-wise, was a sleeper.  But there are factors here that help us define the successful man and Dominant in BDSM too.  But most of you are probably readers of erotic romance

The following factors I believe are key to writing successful dominant men in erotic fiction:

Confidence – In himself first and foremost.  If he can handle any situation that comes his way, then he can obtain his life’s dreams, which may include that woman who is just for him and the family they want.  When a man is confident, his image clearly demonstrates that.  His actions demonstrate that.  In any Lifestyle choice, the man must be confident of himself.  He's allowed to not know answers, that's just part of learning.  But a successful male or female dominant exudes confidence, not ego. 

A healthy Ego – Ego driven by desire helps get the ball moving in life.  I desire something so strongly that I’ll do anything to get it.  Ergo, so will our dominants.

Desire or Passion – Not just passion for the Lifestyle or regular bullshit, if we don’t desire anything, what is there for us? 

Purpose – A man with a purpose is aware of himself and why he’s here.  He doesn’t spend time questioning himself.  He knows where he's going and who should accompany him on the journey as the submissive gives him a special gift that will empower them both. 

Support – From loved ones.  From anyone who constructively helps and motivates us. 

A sense of right and wrong – Notice I did not say morals.  Morals are subjective to different whims. One of my Dominants wants me and another male. By “moral” standards, that’s wrong.  I don’t get how but some folks don’t see it that way.  However, we both have a sense of right and wrong.  No child harmed, always try to do best for everyone involved, etc.  A man with a sense of right and wrong trusts his gut.  More often than not, he’s powerful in his own right.

Lastly, successful Dominants aren’t afraid of Failure. They understand that it’s an event that triggers a learning experience and a chance to grow.

In my upcoming release Menage Bound, Jason and Chase are two strong, successful men who seek reaffirmation that the oddity of the relationship they share with a woman is acceptable.  Siddella seeks two strong men who know what to do in and out of the bedroom.  With her grueling corporate job, she's lacked support in the areas of her life that count.  When presented with Madame Eve's 1Night Stand service, she jumps at the chance to find a fulfilling fantasy that may last only for a night. 

But will Chase and Jason see the full potential in Siddella?  

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Giving Yourself Over

by Sascha Illyvich

How easily are you tempted?  Are you one who understands the pain/pleasure concept that speakers like Anthony Robbins apply to humanity?  Did you ever stop to think about that in a sexual context? 

Livia, in my 1Night Stand - Surrender to Love hasn't, at least not until her therapist suggests she learn to find control from within.  As an artist, she must learn to look outside her inner world of fear and agoraphobic behavior to find more beauty and inspiration.  The human being can only live vicariously for so long before life becomes boring and routine.  Livia must learn like many of us that through denial, we cause ourselves pain but if we're willing to go the extra mile and push past what seems like pain, we can find immense pleasure.  Trust is the key issue in this story, as is the exploration of true freedom.  Imagine being tied down with only words that would be obeyed.  Being spread open and kissed by your lover as he has you tied down and only your words and responses can control the situation. 

This is the position Livia finds herself in after arranging to meet with someone using 1Night Stand.  But her partner holds a secret too. 

In order to cure the dreaded creative rut she’s in, Livia ends up in Las Vegas by suggestion from her therapist.  Oh and there’s a catch.  Livia ‘s been set up to have a one night stand with a very handsome man who promises her freedom through submission.  Can she surrender to more than just passion? 

I based this story on a real life heroine who is near and dear to my heart.  Her presence made writing the story easier because I merely had to think about being in her shoes.  Online and off, I'm such an enormous presence that sometimes I forget what it's like to be who I used to be.  Shy, far from outgoing and in short, very reclusive.  By my very nature as the Bad Boy of Romance, I place trust where it's needed, have fun as required, and flirt often.  There's usually a large dose of drinking involved to help loosen tensions of meeting new people.

Livia only has a few drinks to start with, and then she goes to bed.  One of the rare times when I wrote a character who didn't drink like I do, modifying the character to meet the needs of the story became a breeze.  The culture shock from Colorado to Las Vegas swam around her head until Bruce stepped into the picture and, just like a larger than life God, offered her a choice.  A very sensual choice.

Just like The Playground, the previous 1Night Stand I wrote, the reader is promised one hell of a sexy read. 

Sascha Illyvich