Tuesday, December 13, 2011

The Power of Submission

by Erykah Wyck

So you ask, how can you possibly allow a man to have complete control over you?  And I say the answer is complex. I am a woman who is strong and in charge of a great many parts of her life. I have run offices and had a great many people report to me. So if you had asked me if I would ever let a man control me, my answer would have been a resounding …HELLS,NO.


And there is always a but, isn’t there? But then I found a man who showed me that in giving up control, I could find a new power. In trusting him to take care of me and my needs I could find freedom. When I am submissive, the stresses of the day to day world fall away. He takes those from me and allows me to just be me.

Did it happen overnight? No. Like David says in my book submission doesn’t always come easy and it takes time. And a good Dom understands that. They understand that a submissive isn’t a horse needing to be broken. But a person who is complex and for whatever their reason needs to feel dominated, controlled, call it what you will.

My road to submission wasn’t one that I found easy, it wasn’t the road another submissive might have traveled. I never understood Doms who say that what I need is to be spanked until I can let out my emotions. Who are they to say? Only my Dom and I can say for sure. And I have to trust him to know what’s best for me. Giving up my control in or out of the bedroom to my Dom is a gift, one that should be cherished and respected. Because once a trust between a D/s is broken, it’s very hard to find your way back.

There is some insight into my submissive world. Do I live the lifestyle 24/7? Not at the moment, but I do as often as I can. Do most people know I am a submissive? No and most would be shocked. Is it anyone’s business? Not really, because what goes on between the two of us is for us and us alone. Do I like a good spanking? 

Why not try it and you tell me.


  1. Hi Erykah - I like that name!! I have to admit I don't really fully understand the D/s lifestyle. I doesn't sound like something that would appeal to me but you know, each to his own and whatever people do in the privacy of their own homes is up to them. If it makes you happy, that's great. I think we all need to find our path in life and you're lucky that you have a husband who shares your desires!

  2. I love reading BDSM and look forward to reading this story. I've heard so many great things about it already. :)

  3. I like Barbara's comment! And Erykah, thank you for sharing insight into your own personal journey.

  4. Great post, Erykah. Can't wait to read your story. It's on my TBR list.

  5. Barbara thank you for your comment your understanding is a rare gift. Jessica I have socked away my money to buy your book as soon as it comes out. :) DP thank you for allowing me to tell my story. And Caseamajor can't wait to hear what you think.