Thursday, August 2, 2012

Will you? Won’t you?

By Barbara Elsborg

Hands up – have you ever had a one-night stand? Not me. Not even been tempted but…I’ve been in a situation when one was offered and I turned it down. (Actually make that two situations but I never told you-know-who about that one so mum’s the word). I was in Paris with my boyfriend. We were tired and on our way home after a holiday in Spain. He’d gone to the bathroom in a café to shave (just stepped off an all-night train) and I was drinking a coffee in the sunshine. 

This gorgeous French guy, dark hair, suit, came up and said in French, I think I have an appointment with you.

No, says I. You have the wrong woman. Must be someone else.

But he was very insistent. He sat down and said no, it was me he wanted.
The penny dropped—well, I had been on a long journey—and I said, My boyfriend’s in the bathroom.

So? he asked in his charming Gallic voice. He lived close by. He wanted me to leave with him.

Boyfriend reappeared and the French man smiled and walked off. I was feeling quite flattered and made the mistake of saying that to boyfriend who went into a HUGE sulk and we spent the rest of the journey home not speaking.
His version – he couldn’t believe I’d been flattered because a guy thought I was a prostitute.
My version – I was tired, hair was messy, I was wearing creased clothes, not feeling my best and a good-looking guy wanted me. Course I was flattered.
So – how would my life have been different if I’d gone with the Frenchman and not come home with my English boyfriend? The latter is now my husband and every now and again, he brings out this story and you know, it still annoys him.
So—have you ever had a one-night stand? Would you consider one?

Leave a comment and one person will win a copy of my ebook – On The Right Track – a INS story or any other INS book of your choice.


  1. No and maybe, if I was single. ;) Actually, I wouldn't even if I was single. It is something to fantasize about as long as it was set up by Madam Eve! LOL! Thanks for the giveaway!

  2. Yes, only if it's role playing with my husband!!!!! Thanks!!!

  3. Actually yes, when I was in my 20's and single. Not ashmaed of it now but I was back then.


  4. I've never had the opportunity for a 1NS. I'd like to think I'd be a little adventurous and go for it, but in reality, I'd probably be the good girl and just smile and do nothing.
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  5. I think a lot of us might think we could but when push came to shove, we wouldn't. I think you have to have a very special mindset for casual sex. Most women would still go into hoping it would develop into more. I don't think men think like that at all!

  6. Once back in college. Just needed a night with no strings or expectations. It worked. Now it is just role play with the hubby.
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  7. Yes, in graduate school I had a one night stand with my first love from HS. We hadn't seen each other in about 6 years and it was as emotional and explosive as our HS relationship was.

  8. No I haven't had a 1NS...but it doesn't mean I wouldn't ever...i guess it depends on how hot my Frenchman!

  9. yes i've had one. after my divorce and hysterectomy i was feeling particularly unattractive and i went out with some friends and ended up going home with the sexy cowboy.

    Tammy ramey

  10. Back in my younger days, before I met my husband, I had a one night stand. Maybe Madam Eve could hook me up with another.


  11. Thanks for commenting guys. I think I have to blame my mother for me resisting the urge. Her last words to me before I left home for university were - keep your knickers on.

  12. Suz - you win! Randomly picked. I'll email you about which book you'd like! Thanks for commenting everyone.