by Maureen O. Betita
I’ve been thinking a lot about families lately. Once upon a time, families lived close to each other for generation after generation, knew most each other’s business (or thought they did) and were a bit bossy with each other. (Well, seems like most families have at least one person who attempts to be the boss…)
There is always a boss, a know-it-all, a whiner, a spoiled brat…to one extent of the other, depending on the number of relatives within any circle. Family dynamics, gotta love it!
What I find amusing, is how different families view other families. I have a cousin who lives in the same county as her siblings and parents. A few of the great niece/nephews have moved away, but the rest of them are still in that little county. Now, hearing that one of her distant cousins seldom sees her daughter, she immediately jumps to the conclusion that there is some tragedy or emotional trauma involved. A fight, a battle, a separation. Nope, the two just live in different states. But yeah, immediately it has to be dramatic. (She’s the dramatic child).
My family? We live scattered throughout California with one odd duck in Portland, Oregon. We see each other a few times a year, sometimes it’s a holiday, sometimes not. We e-mail here and there. Mom stays in touch with all of us.
We kids are taking a cruise together in September. We’ve done it before. Always manage just fine to get along, to do things apart and some things together, but we aren’t in lockstep. I tend to think most families probably spend too much time minding each other’s business. And that is seldom a good thing!
In SomethingDifferent, the Castillo family is a bit like my family. They care about each other, they want what is best for each other, but they don’t want to be too intrusive. They follow their mother’s last wishes and try to help their father find someone new. But none of them go with him to the arranged date. None of them were involved in the search for the woman Madam Eve found for him. They trust him to discover for himself if it’s going to work or not.
There is no one truth about families, though we can all hope at the heart of a family there is something that holds us together.
I do sorta wish mine had a string of resorts…
Maureen O. Betita
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